Kath and I enjoying time together this evening although we missed the fireworks.
Relationships are not formed overnight, they may start with meeting someone in person, online or through a dating website or any number of different ways however they don’t start with an ending but with a beginning and maybe an end goal in sight In order to build the relationship though you need to first of all think about how you feel about the person and what you want out of the relationship.
If you want it to end then it is better to end it sooner rather than later and before feelings and emotions develop into strong connections.
If you want to see a relationship develop then you have to think about how to nurture it and help it grow, consider a gardener who wants to grow flowers from seed, he doesn’t just plant them and then wake up with a massive plant because life isn’t like Jack and the beanstalk, it takes knowledge, care, patience and nurturing to grow the plant from seed. Proper conditions, compost, water and heat and protection from frost etc.
The same applies to a relationship with the essential ingredients being, time, patience, understanding, communication and trust. This would enable the relationship to move forward.
Time and taking an interest in the hobbies and activities of the other person helps, Kath my partner and I have one night a week out playing pool and just being out together without interruptions.
Patience with each other, we will all do something that might annoy the other person, I have a tendency to leave taps dripping when I wash up or take over the cooking but fortunately my partner understands me and my little foibles and usually makes little quips. I have no doubt that my partner does things that test my patience, one thing that springs to mind is that we had gone out for the day and my partner decided that she wanted to buy a pair of sandals for on the beach but instead of buying a cheap pair we went into a shoe shop and some considerable time later and £15.00 spent because she didn’t want a cheap pair even though she would probably only wear them once.
Communication is essential but having meaningful communication with each other helps to avoid any issues or confusion. Communication can also be non verbal for example if I am going out and my partner is in bed I will leave a note on my pillow for her and ring her some time in the day just to reconnect. Misunderstandings can be easily avoided and potential problems nipped in the bud before they become too serious. Trust is essential in any relationship and once it is broken it can be built up once more but it is a really difficult thing to do and requires a lot of soul searching and compromise and talking to each other but at a really deeper level to look at why someone would want to hurt someone that they love.
The message in any relationship is the following.