Don’t give up.

Thanks to my friend at nopassingfancy for the reminder today of the need to keep on going even when the going gets tough.

I know that sometimes when my depression is at its most severe that I can find it very difficult to do anything and I tend to hibernate, shut down and shut everything 📴.

Life though isn’t like it says in the Tom Hanks movie a box of chocolates, life very much has its ups and downs and even the odd sidewards knock and is very much a test of our faith, strength and resilience.

Giving up on anything or anyone is not actually as easy as it seems because you have to go against all your beliefs and values.

I have always felt that the most difficult times in a relationship occurs when one of the parties stop caring and this is because behaviours change very quickly and are very difficult to get back to where you were.

Even though the thought of giving up can be quite easy the reality is very different.

Even with family relationships being as they are sometimes it is never an easy to do it in reality.

I myself have tried on numerous occasions and have written letters and posted them to my family members stating how little they mean to me and how bitter I feel towards them because of my complex upbringing, I have still found that I still crave or desire to be in touch with some members of my family and so I go with my tail between my legs and beg for forgiveness.

It is okay to have off days, to have difficult and trying days and even to enjoy duvet days when you need them.

What definitely isn’t OK is for you to give up on life and living in the long term 🤗🤗

Giving up to me is symbolised by the need to get away from everything and if necessary that’s OK but have a plan of action to get you back in touch with your reality and get you back to living 😉❤️🙏😊

Published by paulguisbournehiltonalifeworthgiving

I am a 56 years old male living for the last 5 years in Pembrokeshire West Wales in the UK. I have entitled this blog along with my Facebook page as A Life worth giving because when I was growing up I was taught that the only way to get on in life was to be selfish, not even sharing sweets, books, pens or anything. I moved into adulthood with very much the same view of life and entered in my teens a life of alcohol dependency, another very selfish trait, my drinking consumed every waking moment and I saw alcohol as both my best friend and worst enemy, the only real positive was that it never let me down. Life changed for me in 1997 in the month of April when I stopped drinking and started to awaken my feelings, I found that I actually enjoyed life, enjoyed feeling although it was hard and left me feeling vulnerable yet today I am at my happiest, in a very loving relationship and life is good. A life worth giving is about my journey through life but also about being selfless and serving others willingly and with an attitude of gratitude.

10 thoughts on “Don’t give up.

  1. While researching material for my book, I was reminded that when we’re out of alignment with our core values, then we have a tendency to be miserable. Reading everything you have said, I think that you agree. Giving up means going against your beliefs and values : thus it is brings us further down and adds to our misery!
    Chin up, my friend. You are cared about and you matter!

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    1. Thank you so much my friend for your kind comments and I agree with you totally.
      I think that life becomes easier once we have made a decision about anything that affects us.
      I certainly agree that we should live in alignment with our core values and beliefs and that we are in a state of torment mentally when we don’t
      I truly believe that a lot of this is down to the choices that we make and sometimes it is easier to put the blame or responsibility onto someone else.
      I hope to have another tattoo done just before Christmas and this will be representative of my belief system encapsulated in the dimensions of it.
      I am hoping to have a compass face, with the scales of justice integrated into the face of the compass and the point facing true North with the Northern star above with the centre of the scales being in the style of a cross ➕..
      I hope that this will symbolise my love for Jesus Christ, balance and unwaveringness and the need for Justice and Mercy in our lives and thus our need for Jesus Christ who is our intermediary with the Father.
      I value your friendship and support and encouragement.
      I feel as though I am close to a breakthrough and I felt a lot better yesterday afternoon and I feel really energised this morning. 😊😉🤗
      Has your book been published only I would like to read it if it has been 😊
      I hope that you have a wonderful and blessed day and enjoy all that you do 🤗😉🙏

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      1. It’s not published yet – I am still writing it 😉 But I’ll definitely share it when it’s done 🙂 Thank you for your interest 🙂
        I think you’re definitely meandering down the right road, my friend 🙂 It’s difficult, and I am sure there are going to be painful moments, but you’ve got this! Remember Who’s you are, and keep on keeping on.
        You’re doing great! 🙂

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      2. Thank you my friend and I look forward to the day that your book will be published and I am sure that you will achieve your goal and that it will be full of hope and optimism. 😉
        I think that in life there are many painful moments but hopefully they will be clouded over by the good moments that we experience. I also think though that we have painful moments because we don’t view them in the right way.
        Instead of accepting them and using them as a means of building control, strength and resilience and as a learning opportunity we have a tendency to make ourselves the victim of circumstances and say that we have no control however we can make and do make choices in everything that we do even down to our reactions 🙏❤️
        Thank you for taking an interest in me and for our developing friendship and support and I hope that you have a day blessed with love, happiness and joy. 🙏❤️🤗

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