How do we show we care?


The picture above was taken a couple of years ago when Kath and I visited Manchester to visit my family before Christmas, and is of Kath encouraging a squirrel to come to her. Since we met Kath has become a bit of an animal whisperer and on one occasion having a couple of pigeons feeding from her hand.
Due to the distance and cost we try and visit once a year, catching up with everyone, giving Christmas presents and just spending time together.

How does this picture show someone who is caring, I think that the fact the squirrel approached her without anything to tempt it shows that it mustn’t have been afraid and that it could trust her and the fact that it allowed a picture to be taken as well really surprised me.

This is the thing about caring, it is a little bit like showing someone love, it is a verb, a doing word and anyone can say that they care but not anyone can show that they care.
Actions whatever they may be make a big difference to everybody that experiences them and it does not have to be a big gesture it can be something as simple as making a phone call or sending someone a text message, just to say that you had been thinking about that person or asking if everything is okay, sending a good luck in your new home card when someone moves in and maybe baking a cake.
Other ideas are things like making yourself available for a friend, going out for a morning coffee, inviting someone to your home for a Sunday dinner, Kath and I have been invited to Christmas dinner with our landlady and her family because we would have been on our own and since we moved we have become really close friends and often take her dog for a walk and look after it whilst they are away. These are just a few examples of showing a person that you care however there are many different ways.

I was quite surprised a few days ago and without embarrassing anyone but they know who they are, I had a comment against a post that we had been following together and it was basically a message asking if I was okay because I had not posted for a couple of days, this simple act of kindness brought a smile to my face but also showed the caring nature of someone that I have only just connected with, just that simple one line message made all the difference to my day.
I have been feeling a little stressed recently over a number of different aspects of my life and people I have known for a number of years have not even tried to make any contact with me and I know that there is a fine line between showing concern and interfering but I would be happy for someone just to say, ” are you okay and ring me ” it would show that at least they are thinking about me.

I myself am quite an emotional person, I even cry watching Christmas movies when you know what the outcome will be, they meet, they have a difficult road and they fall in love and live happily ever after. I also need reassurance at times especially when I am struggling with my depression and anxiety and I am a very tactile person, a hug works wonders.
I also feel very deflated at times and through the actions of others I am often left feeling disappointed by people, I think that again it is my need to be liked or seek approval and I certainly struggle with criticism.

A caring nature cannot be bought from a shop or online but it can be developed.

Thank you my friend for taking the time to show how much you care xx

Published by paulguisbournehiltonalifeworthgiving

I am a 56 years old male living for the last 5 years in Pembrokeshire West Wales in the UK. I have entitled this blog along with my Facebook page as A Life worth giving because when I was growing up I was taught that the only way to get on in life was to be selfish, not even sharing sweets, books, pens or anything. I moved into adulthood with very much the same view of life and entered in my teens a life of alcohol dependency, another very selfish trait, my drinking consumed every waking moment and I saw alcohol as both my best friend and worst enemy, the only real positive was that it never let me down. Life changed for me in 1997 in the month of April when I stopped drinking and started to awaken my feelings, I found that I actually enjoyed life, enjoyed feeling although it was hard and left me feeling vulnerable yet today I am at my happiest, in a very loving relationship and life is good. A life worth giving is about my journey through life but also about being selfless and serving others willingly and with an attitude of gratitude.

One thought on “How do we show we care?

  1. What a beautiful post, Paul! Loved the pic of Kath and the squirrel – she has a beautiful soul!
    I think a lot of having the ability to express care and concern in a kind and actionable way comes from having been in a place where you have been the one in need.
    All our life experiences are there to better us, and help us become better towards those around us.
    Hope you’re having a lovely weekend! đŸ™‚

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