The 3rd light

I have recently undergone some quite dramatic changes in my life and the outcomes have been different and some really quite scary and I have certainly felt intimidated by some people.

I was recently accused of being a coward because I blocked some people from Facebook even though I don’t count them as friends or people I would want to associate with. Social media is supposed to enrich our lives and help us to create connections with others not to allow others to abuse us or create fantasies or endanger us in any way.

If I am a coward by removing myself from the path of the bullets theoretically speaking then I will take ownership of that fact. However I really do believe that the social media platforms have a greater responsibility to its users in protecting them even by notifying us of any people who view our profiles etc.

I am reminded of something that my Grandfather taught me when he talked about his experience of the 1st World War and trench life. He talked a lot about keeping yourself safe in the most difficult of situations especially with regards to avoiding snipers bullets, the best way to avoid this was to not share a match to light a cigarette because if you were the 3rd light from a match the sniper would have fixed his sights on you. His advice was always to keep your eye on the person in front, be mindful of your enemies and their capabilities and keep your head below the parapet. Sometimes in the world of Internet dating this is not the easiest thing to do but I would encourage each and everyone of us to be careful, stay safe and take care.

A heart that is broken takes a long time to heal if indeed it ever does.

Published by paulguisbournehiltonalifeworthgiving

I am a 56 years old male living for the last 5 years in Pembrokeshire West Wales in the UK. I have entitled this blog along with my Facebook page as A Life worth giving because when I was growing up I was taught that the only way to get on in life was to be selfish, not even sharing sweets, books, pens or anything. I moved into adulthood with very much the same view of life and entered in my teens a life of alcohol dependency, another very selfish trait, my drinking consumed every waking moment and I saw alcohol as both my best friend and worst enemy, the only real positive was that it never let me down. Life changed for me in 1997 in the month of April when I stopped drinking and started to awaken my feelings, I found that I actually enjoyed life, enjoyed feeling although it was hard and left me feeling vulnerable yet today I am at my happiest, in a very loving relationship and life is good. A life worth giving is about my journey through life but also about being selfless and serving others willingly and with an attitude of gratitude.

One thought on “The 3rd light

  1. Unfortunately social media has become a platform for bullies and a lot of judgement. It was created to enrich lives and keep us connected, but as the world has begun changing, so has the intention.
    At the end of the day, it is about maintaining peace FOR OURSELVES. And if blocking some people brings peace to your soul, then you need to ignore those who judge you for it.
    YOUR life is just that. YOURS! It isn’t anyone else’s to live.
    Live in peace, my friend ❤

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