Many of you who have been following my blog over the last year or so will know that I suffer from depression and anxiety and have overcome an addiction to alcohol, had 4 marriages and have 2 children, 1 of which I don’t have any contact with and recently lost the 2 closest people in my life, my Aunt and Uncle who were the biggest influences in my life.
I have also experienced many hours of sitting in a Psychiatrists or Psychologists chair, talking therapies, being listened to and valued.
Putting your life under a microscope.
During the last sessions of therapy, I was asked the question, “What do I value”??
It is really easy to think about the things that you value when you look around you, the clock that you have purchased recently, the books on the bookcase, the laptop that you are writing this blog on, these are possessions rather than things of value, imagine trying to think about what you value, then I would ask that you close your eyes and imagine having nothing and then when you open your eyes focus upon the first things that you see, how you feel when you look at the items, hold and touch them.
This is how I chose to have my living room decorated, and the clock is a focal point of my wall however when I think about what I value, I try and move away from personal possessions, and think more about qualities and attributes.
What then do I value??
I value above all else my sobriety, 25 years of abstaining from alcohol is not only a milestone but also I have surpassed the length of time that I had been drinking.
I value my health and well-being – I am looking at losing weight, eating more healthily, going to the gym, walking more, trying to get into a proper sleep pattern .
Service – I look forward to the opportunity to serve others, whether it be on committees, helping someone with their shopping, taking meter readings for an elderly relative or taking the time to listen to someone.
I value education – I read uplifting and educational books, watch educating documentaries and take an interest in the world around me.
I value my relationships and have established healthy boundaries.
These are some of the things that I value, my relationships are very important to me and spending time with my loved ones is how I enjoy spending what little time I have on this earth,