What do you value??

Many of you who have been following my blog over the last year or so will know that I suffer from depression and anxiety and have overcome an addiction to alcohol, had 4 marriages and have 2 children, 1 of which I don’t have any contact with and recently lost the 2 closest people in my life, my Aunt and Uncle who were the biggest influences in my life.
I have also experienced many hours of sitting in a Psychiatrists or Psychologists chair, talking therapies, being listened to and valued.

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Putting your life under a microscope.
During the last sessions of therapy, I was asked the question, “What do I value”??
It is really easy to think about the things that you value when you look around you, the clock that you have purchased recently, the books on the bookcase, the laptop that you are writing this blog on, these are possessions rather than things of value, imagine trying to think about what you value, then I would ask that you close your eyes and imagine having nothing and then when you open your eyes focus upon the first things that you see, how you feel when you look at the items, hold and touch them.

This is how I chose to have my living room decorated, and the clock is a focal point of my wall however when I think about what I value, I try and move away from personal possessions, and think more about qualities and attributes.
What then do I value??
I value above all else my sobriety, 25 years of abstaining from alcohol is not only a milestone but also I have surpassed the length of time that I had been drinking.
I value my health and well-being – I am looking at losing weight, eating more healthily, going to the gym, walking more, trying to get into a proper sleep pattern .
Service – I look forward to the opportunity to serve others, whether it be on committees, helping someone with their shopping, taking meter readings for an elderly relative or taking the time to listen to someone.
I value education – I read uplifting and educational books, watch educating documentaries and take an interest in the world around me.
I value my relationships and have established healthy boundaries.

My uncle and his dog.

My Dad and I
My Aunt and I

My girlfriend and I last year.

These are some of the things that I value, my relationships are very important to me and spending time with my loved ones is how I enjoy spending what little time I have on this earth,

Published by paulguisbournehiltonalifeworthgiving

I am a 56 years old male living for the last 5 years in Pembrokeshire West Wales in the UK. I have entitled this blog along with my Facebook page as A Life worth giving because when I was growing up I was taught that the only way to get on in life was to be selfish, not even sharing sweets, books, pens or anything. I moved into adulthood with very much the same view of life and entered in my teens a life of alcohol dependency, another very selfish trait, my drinking consumed every waking moment and I saw alcohol as both my best friend and worst enemy, the only real positive was that it never let me down. Life changed for me in 1997 in the month of April when I stopped drinking and started to awaken my feelings, I found that I actually enjoyed life, enjoyed feeling although it was hard and left me feeling vulnerable yet today I am at my happiest, in a very loving relationship and life is good. A life worth giving is about my journey through life but also about being selfless and serving others willingly and with an attitude of gratitude.

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